Women Creating New Realities

Two friends were walking  through the desert.

During some point of the journey, they had an argument and one friend slapped the other one in the face.

The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand, “Today my best friend  slapped me in the face”.

They kept on walking, until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath.

The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but the friend saved him.

After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone, “Today my best friend saved my life”.

The friend who had slapped and then saved his best friend asked him, “After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?”

The friend replied “When someone hurts you write it down in sand, where winds of forgiveness can erase it away.

But, when someone does something good for you, engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it”.

Learn to write your hurts in the sand and to carve acts of love and kindness in stone.

~ Unknown

Appreciative Self-Inquiry:

Am I willing to forgive and release the wrongdoings of those who have slighted, manipulated or treated me in a harmful way?

Am I willing to forgive myself of my wrongdoings which have negatively impacted others?

Am I am willing to release all thoughts of guilt, blame and shame of myself and others?

How do I feel when I choose to forgive myself and others?

How do I justify not forgiving myself and others?

What burdens of the heart and mind do I carry around when I choose to not forgive?

What are the gifts of forgiveness?

The Forgiveness Experiment:

Think of someone you are willing to forgive today, to set free from their wrongdoing(s) and to release yourself from your prison of judgement.

Suggested Format for Your Forgiveness Statements.

(Person’s name) ___________, I forgive you.

I forgive you for not being the (parent, sibling, friend, boss, client…) ____________ that I needed/wanted/expected you to be.

I forgive you for (wrongdoing(s)) _____________________.

I forgive you. I release you with love. I let go with love. We are free.


Sophia, I forgive you. I forgive you for not being the sister that I wanted you to be. I forgive you for ignoring me and dismissing me when we were growing up.  I forgive you. I release you with love. I let go with love. We are free.


Sharing our triumphant stories of how we have succeeded in a personal or professional situation can positively inspire men and women to take action for themselves which in turn creates ripples of enlightenment, empowerment and transformation worldwide. In the comments section, I invite you to share your experience of forgiveness. Thank you for sharing and choosing to make a difference.

 Transformational Workshop:

When you completely forgive yourself and others, you transcend your inner prison of judgement, guilt, blame and shame. Through forgiveness you awaken to happiness, peace of mind, freedom, a deep sense of self-worth, wholeness and confidence. If you are experiencing challenges with forgiving yourself or others, or if you are ready to purge your judgements and enrich the quality of your life, contact me at juditszabo@quantumv.ca to inquire about your personalized, one-on-one, forgiveness workshop.

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