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Authenticity … Living Me, Myself and I .
~ Judit e. Szabo
On my morning walk today I passed by a quaint grove of trees … not sure why but the grove stirred up thoughts of the events that occurred in the Garden of Gethsemane, thousands of years ago … events that concluded in crucifying betrayal … betrayal is ugly, it messes with our brain, it shuts down our heart, it rattles our soul … it is the juice that drama thrives on … disloyalty, treachery, infidelity … friends, lovers, husbands, wives, co-workers, brothers, sisters, daughters, sons … all betrayal is a searing life experience … but the one betrayal that doesn’t seem to receive much consideration … the one that I believe trumps all machinations of duplicity is self-betrayal … our sincere need to belong, to be loved, comfortable, safe, secure can unwittingly lead us to give up on our true-self … our hopes and dreams, our gifts and talents, our passions … silently mediocrity starts to seep in through our pores and take root in our lives … that is of course until we decide to choose differently and begin to reclaim our authentic ‘I Am’.
~ Judit e. Szabo
Courage is the virtue that all other virtues depend upon …
~ Judit e. Szabo
Does you behavior and presence align with your authentic self… your purpose, passion, perspective…?
Is your example ego based or heart and soul based?
Are you taking a stand for fear or truth?
The key to changing the world, to changing your life, and to empowering those around you is authenticity…the willingness to be yourself…the willingness to be vulnerable…the willingness to feel…the willingness to live…by eradicating the judgment that you’ve imposed on yourself and society has opposed on you.
~ Panache Desai
Enlightenment is the key to everything,
and it is the key to intimacy,
because it is the goal of true authenticity.
~ Marianne Williamson
Drink from your own wells.
Sup at your table.
Speak from your own heart.
Go where your legs take you.
Know your own mind.
See through your soul’s eyes.
Follow none but your own self.
For each man has his own pathway, and whoever would be your guide cannot help but lead you astray.
Marcus Tullius Tiro
And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.
~ Anais Nin
The visionary is the one who brings his or her voice into the world and who refuses to edit, rehearse, perform, or hide. It is the visionary who knows that the power of creativity is aligned with authenticity.
~ Angeles Arrien
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine,
we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
~ Marianne Williamson
When do I tend to give myself permission to shine?
When do I tend to play small…what am I afraid of?
What core beliefs drive my shrinking and shining patterns?
How would I define my light…what are my strengths, my gifts and talents, my purpose and passion?
How does my presence uplift and inspire people?
Write down 100 qualities that you love, respect or appreciate about yourself (yes, you do have at least 100).
For 21 consecutive days, read out-loud your 100 qualities and begin to feel the gloriousness of who you truly are.
Throughout the course of a week in a non-judgmental manner, observe how you shrink or shine in different situations.
Ask yourself if you are willing and ready to change…to shine more and shrink less.
If you are willing and ready to change, then from a place of loving kindness, service and a deep desire to add value, begin to show up more fully and observe how your presence, your words, your deeds empowers and inspires others to do the same.
Sharing our triumphant stories of how we have succeeded in a personal or professional situation can positively inspire men and women to take action for themselves which in turn creates ripples of enlightenment, empowerment and transformation worldwide. In the comments section, I invite you to share your experience of liberating yourself from your own fears and how your life, work and leadership has changed for the better. Thank you for sharing and choosing to make a difference.
When you choose to embrace and express your true power, you begin to transcend your core fears and you awaken to happiness, peace of mind, freedom, a deep sense of self-worth, wholeness and confidence. If you are experiencing challenges with embracing your authentic power, please contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org to inquire about a personalized one-on-one or group workshop.
A water bearer had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole which he carried across his neck. One of the pots had a crack in it, while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water. At the end of the long walk from the stream to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half full.
For a full two years this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only one and a half pots full of water to his house. Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments, perfect for which it was made. But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection. And miserable that it was able to accomplish only half of what it had been made to do.
After two years of what it perceived to be a bitter failure, it spoke to the water bearer one day by the stream. “I am ashamed of myself, and I want to apologize to you. I have been able to deliver only half my load because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your house. Because of my flaws, you have to do all of this work, and you don’t get full value from your efforts,” the pot said.
The bearer said to the pot, “Did you notice that there were flowers only on your side of the path, but not on the other pot’s side? That’s because I have always known about your flaw. So I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back, you’ve watered them. For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate the table. Without you being just the way you are, there would not be this beauty to grace the house?
~ Unknown (China or India)
- What are the lessons of this parable? (Eg. Self-Esteem, Self-Respect, Diversity, Authenticity, Perspective …)
- How can I integrate these lessons into my own life, at work and leadership?
- Who are the celebrated crackpots in our world? How do/did they add value, positively influence humanity or make a difference?
* When you have a moment, I would love your feedback on inquiry #3. Many Thanks Judit.