Many do not want to forgive because they have a misguided belief that by holding on to their anger, hatred or resentment is somehow punishing the other person. Wrong! That is not the case.
Rather, withholding forgiveness is akin to drinking poison with the hope that the other person will die. They won’t!
Forgive them for your own peace of mind, healing and freedom. You deserve to reclaim your power, your life. 🦋
The journey towards resolution, forgiveness and peace can begin with f@*k you and that my friend is o.k. 🦋
I believe forgiveness is one of the highest forms of love and respect in any personal or professional relationship.
It takes courage to say ‘I’m sorry’ and an even more valiant heart to say ‘I forgive you’.
~ Judit 🦋
Self-forgiveness is a positive admission to ourselves that we did the best we could with the level of consciousness and understanding that we had at the time of the situation. Forgiveness brings us peace, freedom and permission to move forward in loving kindness of self and others.
I feel you … watching me … caressing my hair, my curves, my soul … I glance … you turn … feigned indifference … oh my sweet love … crush the pain … forgive me as I have forgiven you.
~ Judit e. Szabo
This morning as I am walking along the shores of Lake Ontario, I come across a quarried boulder with RECONCILATION etched on its one side. A fallen white tissue positioned just so in front of it. As I sit on this boulder … now my boulder … observing the hypnotizing ebb and flow of the lake … reconciliation begins to whisper … promising love, peace and joy … slowly shape-shifting into a bridge of hope … beckoning to cross over to grace … rumbling thoughts of reconciliation begin to roll through my mind … crushing illusions of fear … soothing anger … commanding to stand down … as I begin to loosen and relax … forgiveness purifies my guilt … our guilt … my eyes mist, tears flow … my heart breaks open … hmm … am I brave enough? I continue on my walk … seeking courage.
~ Judit e. Szabo
Peace, one of the noblest virtues that lives within all of us … imagine how your life would transform if you decided to live your life through the spirit of Peace … one breath, one heart-beat, one thought, one deed at a time …
~ Judit e. Szabo
Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.
~ Mark Twain
Artist: Yvette Pichette
Two friends were walking through the desert.
During some point of the journey, they had an argument and one friend slapped the other one in the face.
The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand, “Today my best friend slapped me in the face”.
They kept on walking, until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath.
The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but the friend saved him.
After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone, “Today my best friend saved my life”.
The friend who had slapped and then saved his best friend asked him, “After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?”
The friend replied “When someone hurts you write it down in sand, where winds of forgiveness can erase it away.
But, when someone does something good for you, engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it”.
Learn to write your hurts in the sand and to carve acts of love and kindness in stone.
~ Unknown
Appreciative Self-Inquiry:
Am I willing to forgive and release the wrongdoings of those who have slighted, manipulated or treated me in a harmful way?
Am I willing to forgive myself of my wrongdoings which have negatively impacted others?
Am I am willing to release all thoughts of guilt, blame and shame of myself and others?
How do I feel when I choose to forgive myself and others?
How do I justify not forgiving myself and others?
What burdens of the heart and mind do I carry around when I choose to not forgive?
What are the gifts of forgiveness?
The Forgiveness Experiment:
Think of someone you are willing to forgive today, to set free from their wrongdoing(s) and to release yourself from your prison of judgement.
Suggested Format for Your Forgiveness Statements.
(Person’s name) ___________, I forgive you.
I forgive you for not being the (parent, sibling, friend, boss, client…) ____________ that I needed/wanted/expected you to be.
I forgive you for (wrongdoing(s)) _____________________.
I forgive you. I release you with love. I let go with love. We are free.
Example:
Sophia, I forgive you. I forgive you for not being the sister that I wanted you to be. I forgive you for ignoring me and dismissing me when we were growing up. I forgive you. I release you with love. I let go with love. We are free.
Ripples:
Sharing our triumphant stories of how we have succeeded in a personal or professional situation can positively inspire men and women to take action for themselves which in turn creates ripples of enlightenment, empowerment and transformation worldwide. In the comments section, I invite you to share your experience of forgiveness. Thank you for sharing and choosing to make a difference.
Transformational Workshop:
When you completely forgive yourself and others, you transcend your inner prison of judgement, guilt, blame and shame. Through forgiveness you awaken to happiness, peace of mind, freedom, a deep sense of self-worth, wholeness and confidence. If you are experiencing challenges with forgiving yourself or others, or if you are ready to purge your judgements and enrich the quality of your life, contact me at juditszabo@quantumv.ca to inquire about your personalized, one-on-one, forgiveness workshop.
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on July 14, 2013