Throughout the years, I have met and coached woman in positional power who believed that being aggressive, arrogant and irreverent was the persona of a powerful person. It turned out that it wasn’t and they eventually derailed their leadership effectiveness.
Through the process of self-empowerment coaching, my clients discovered that underneath their contemptuousness was imposter syndrome, the fear of being found out that she was a phoney, that her self-confidence was wobbly and inconsistent and that she was often plagued with self-doubt.
Our coaching sessions were focused on bringing forth her inherently empowered authentic-self, which resulted in a natural and observable transformation.
An empowered woman who knows and respects herself radiates an authentic confidence, she is grace under fire and she interacts with people with interest, respect and compassion. Empowered woman understand the strength and purpose of their power and they proudly wield it to inspire, create and to positively influence her world. 🦋
An unregulated ego is the number one reason why leaders derail.
Ineffective leaders are usually unaware, that their ego driven behaviour is creating havoc amongst their people in their organization. Extraordinary leaders, are willing to take a hard honest look at themselves and their overall performance. They know their tenure and the success of their organization depends on their ability to open their eyes, to be honest with themselves and have the courage to transform their short comings.
Leaders have to create a sense of hope, or both they and their aspirations are lost. Without hope, there’s nowhere for leaders to lead or followers to follow. Without hope, there is no life. As Napoleon Bonaparte said—and he should know—
A water bearer had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole which he carried across his neck. One of the pots had a crack in it, while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water. At the end of the long walk from the stream to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half full.
For a full two years this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only one and a half pots full of water to his house. Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments, perfect for which it was made. But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection. And miserable that it was able to accomplish only half of what it had been made to do.
After two years of what it perceived to be a bitter failure, it spoke to the water bearer one day by the stream. “I am ashamed of myself, and I want to apologize to you. I have been able to deliver only half my load because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your house. Because of my flaws, you have to do all of this work, and you don’t get full value from your efforts,” the pot said.
The bearer said to the pot, “Did you notice that there were flowers only on your side of the path, but not on the other pot’s side? That’s because I have always known about your flaw. So I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back, you’ve watered them. For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate the table. Without you being just the way you are, there would not be this beauty to grace the house?
~ Unknown (China or India)
What are the lessons of this parable? (Eg. Self-Esteem, Self-Respect, Diversity, Authenticity, Perspective …)
How can I integrate these lessons into my own life, at work and leadership?
Who are the celebrated crackpots in our world? How do/did they add value, positively influence humanity or make a difference?
* When you have a moment, I would love your feedback on inquiry #3. Many Thanks Judit.
The leader must be awake and fully alert. Like a nighttime traveler attuned to every sound in the forest, the leader must be aware of all possibilities lurking in the shadows. For we can neither challenge nor transform what we cannot see.
What are my blind spots? How are they impacting my life, work and leadership? How do I uncover and transform them into positive character traits, high performance strengths and leadership intelligence?
We see what we expect or want to see. All perception occurs in a rich, dynamic, ongoing context, and a thorough understanding of the perceptual process demands that we understand the roles of expectations, assumptions, and hypothesis, which, taken together, constitute what may be called a person’s assumptive world.