Shame is an inner-focused, painful emotion that encompasses the entire sense of self. It distorts a person’s self image to the point that they cannot see nor relate to their deeply buried authentic selves.
Shame is an IRRATIONAL feeling of worthlessness, humiliation and self loathing that leads to an overall feeling of paralysis that profoundly sabotages a person’s life.
Internalized shame ruins lives, it stops individuals from experiencing professional success and it derails significant relationships.
With the support of a professional therapist or transformational life coach, shame can be dismantled and a person’s self-esteem and life rebuilt. 🦋
‘Coulda, Woulda, Shoulda’ … three of the saddest words uttered throughout the ages … 3 words that cause our greatest grief and anxiety … they are the socially unacceptable words of regret … the misgivings we have shoved down … the remorse we pretend doesn’t exist … we all have them … moments when we cautiously withdrew from someone or something because we were afraid of being rejected, of failing, looking foolish … they are the life defining moments we defensively, justifiably, self-righteously took a detour from and headed into a new direction … believing we are ‘now’ safe … yet as we journey on our new path we quietly carry our invisible baggage of shame, guilt and self-loathing, mumbling I ‘Coulda, Woulda, Shoulda’…
A recent survey by Allianz Life Insurance Company of North America found that roughly one-third (32%) of Americans regret major choices in their lives.
Happy Newsflash … it’s never late to dump our baggage … to embrace our innocence … our vulnerabilities … to acknowledge that we did our best with what we knew at the time … to exercise our courage …. to step up and smash our ‘Coulda, Woulda, Shoulda’… to either do the ‘ it’ … or … to forgive ourselves … for our past misguided decisions … at this juncture we can’t fool ourselves … we know what to do for ‘done’ to pop.
Judit e. Szabo
Poster: Karen Salmansohn