Many of us spend December 31st reflecting on our year, cherishing the happy moments, unpacking the challenging experiences, celebrating our wins and grieving our losses.
We meander through our past 364 days taking notes of how it will be different in the upcoming new year.
We start a list on how we will fix our bodies, finances, relationships, work and other aspects of our life that are not quite right or all together wrong.
We contemplate what we will need to stop or start doing so that the flaws will finally be banished, the glorious exalted and the big wins trophied.
Oh what a triumphant year it will be!
Tic Toc, it’s January 1st the new year has begun. Merrily we skip onto our field of dreams, spinning with joy, inhaling rainbows, daisies and unicorns.
Tic Toc, it’s February 15th, six weeks into the new year.
Describe what you are feeling. Successful? Fulfilled? Empowered to keep moving on the right path towards your hearts desire? Stuck in the same old rut? Wanting?
Now ask yourself this one fundamental question that will perpetually inspire you to build your platform for positive outcomes.
Today triumphs over yesterday and it floats tomorrow. Love today. Own it ferociously because your success and happiness can only bloom in the here and now. Today is what matters most. Carpe Diem my friends. 🦋
When we invest in ourselves, it is a commitment that lasts forever.
Invest in your mind, body, education, creativity and experiences, that guarantee a lifetime of personal and professional empowerment. 🦋
Discomfort is the currency of success in life, love and leadership. If you feel uncomfortable, out of your depth, overwhelmed or scared then know that you have inadvertently stumbled or intentionally pitched yourself out of your loathsome yet comfortable rut. You are on a life altering adventure, moving towards the light of where you belong, your brilliant life, career and relationship. Lean in, level up and just keep going. You’ve got this. 🦋
With commitment we can never fail. Without commitment we will fail. If it’s important we commit 100% . If it’s sort of important, we will sort of commit and then wonder why something is not working out as we had hoped. Outcomes never lie. Go all in for yourself, make the commitment, take the risk and ride the tiger to the end. 🦋
I was so overwhelmed and tired that I decided to throw in the towel. My inner Warrior threw it back at me and said ‘Wipe your tears girl, we’re almost there. We can do this!’ And so we did. 🦋
The excuses are many and yet the solution can be surprisingly simple. 80% of success is showing up the remaining 20% is following up. 🦋
Today is Blue Monday. It’s also the 21st day in 2019. A good time to reaffirm our commitments, review and tweak our new year goals and plans. Note to self, enthusiastic focus is the secret sauce for my success. Let’s do this! 🦋
Throughout the past few millenniums, tomes have been written, talks have been scripted, motivational speakers have enlightened, coaches and consultants have been hired on a subject matter that only requires a two worded mantra, ‘Do It’, followed up by a whole lot of more ‘Do Its’ and of course heaps of befitting action.
Success, is defined as the accomplishment of an aim or purpose. Nike got it right in 1988 with their timeless inspirational tag line, ‘Just do it’.
The magic bullet for success? Simply, recognize that success is not a noun but verb, a lot of verbs strung together to the very end.
‘Do It’ till it’s done. 🦋
Integrity is the fundamental source of self-worth, the soul of success ….
Cruelty is deliberately causing or wanting to cause another pain or suffering and not being sorry or remorseful about it. Usually, our stance is self-righteous and we feel justified in our harshness.
Gossiping, character assassination, spreading false rumours, humiliating, criticizing, polarizing and ostracizing are a few examples of active cruelty in the workplace and in our personal relationships.
Yes, it’s ok to be angry, upset, frustrated and disappointed but it is never ok to covertly or openly lash out with the intent to hurt another and then be smugly ok about it.
Taking responsibility for our emotions is emotional intelligence. To be emotionally intelligent is a self-empowering discipline worthy of our attention and effort. It is the capacity and practice of being self-aware, self-control, effectively expressing our emotions and being able to interact with others objectively with compassion and empathy.
Emotional Intelligence is considered to be the bedrock of personal and professional success.
To learn more about Emotional Intelligence, I highly recommend Daniel Goleman’s book ‘Emotional Intelligence’.
There is no such thing as failure! There are outcomes, results or feedback. As long as we are learning, gaining knowledge, expanding our perspective and moving forward we are succeeding.
When we own IT … yes I mean all of it … both the good stuff and the nasty bits … we are choosing to be the Queen of our universe … when we don’t … we become a slave girl in someone else’s world … my dear friends, always elect being a Queen over a slave girl … don the Queen’s mantle … your divinely appointed mantle … this is the key to your happiness and success … I promise.
~ Judit e. Szabo
We are as successful as we believe we can be … nothing more and nothing less.
~ Judit e. Szabo
Mental strength is at the forefront of all successful endeavors…
~ Judit e. Szabo
The foundation of ‘great’ success? Expressing yourself authentically.
~ Judit e. Szabo
Inspiration is the quintessential spirit of all successful endeavors …
~Judit e. Szabo
In all things that matter, consistently give it your 100%.
In all things that matter, that much more, give it your 110%.
This is how success is achieved in life, at work or leadership.
~ Judit e. Szabo
A key to holistic success is to know our priorities, personal and professional, and then to actively schedule them on a day to day basis.
~ Judit e. Szabo
All of my successful endeavors, are rooted in my life’s purpose, driven by my passion and empowered by my uncompromising belief, in what will be.
~ Judit e. Szabo
What inner obstacle(s) do you need to overcome, to grow your success?
~ Judit e. Szabo
The underbelly of success is unyielding grit.
Judit e. Szabo
Obstacles are like wild animals.
They are cowards but they will bluff you if they can.
If they see you are afraid of them…
they are liable to spring upon you;
but if you look them squarely in the eye, they will slink out of sight.
~ Orison Swett Marden
Artist: Maurice Sendak
All successful people men and women are big dreamers.
They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose.
~ Brian Tracy
You will never have a greater or lesser dominion than that over yourself …
The height of a man’s success is gauged by his self-mastery; the depth of his failure by his self-abandonment …
And this law is the expression of eternal justice.
He who cannot establish dominion over himself will have no dominion over others.
~ Leonardo da Vinci
Success isn’t a result of spontaneous combustion.
You must set yourself on fire.
~ Arnold H. Glasow
People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are.
I don’t believe in circumstances.
The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, make them.
~ George Bernard Shaw
Don’t aim at success.
The more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it.
For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one’s personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one’s surrender to a person other than oneself.
Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it.
I want you to listen to what your conscience commands you to do and go on to carry it out to the best of your knowledge.
Then you will live to see that in the long-run – in the long-run, I say! – success will follow you precisely because you had forgotten to think about it.
~ Viktor E. Frankl
He [She] has achieved success who has lived well,
laughed often and loved much;
who has gained the respect of intelligent men
and the love of little children;
who has filled his [her] niche and accomplished his [her]task;
who has left the world better than he [she] found it,
whether by an improved poppy, a perfect poem, or a rescued soul;
who has never lacked appreciation of earth’s beauty
or failed to express it;
who has always looked for the best in others
and given them the best he [she] had;
whose life was an inspiration;
whose memory a benediction.
~ Bessie Stanley
Photo Credit: Michael S. Yamashita
If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far. ~ Daniel Goleman ( Emotional Intelligence)
Emotional Intelligence is a way of recognizing, understanding, and choosing how we think, feel, and act. It shapes our interactions with others and our understanding of ourselves. It defines how and what we learn; it allows us to set priorities; it determines the majority of our daily actions. Research suggests it is responsible for as much as 80% of the “success” in our lives. ~ Ph.D Anabel L. Jensen, Marsha C. Rideout, Patricia E. Freedman, Joshua M. Freedman (Handle With Care: Emotional Intelligence Activity Book)
In the last decade or so, science has discovered a tremendous amount about the role emotions play in our lives. Researchers have found that even more than IQ, your emotional awareness and abilities to handle feelings will determine your success and happiness in all walks of life, including family relationships. ~ John Gottman (Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child)
It is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of intelligence, it is not the triumph of heart over head — it is the unique intersection of both. ~ David Caruso (Emotional What?)
I learned this, at least, by my experiment; that if one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.
He will put some things behind, will pass an invisible boundary; new, universal, and more liberal laws will begin to establish themselves around and within him; or the old laws will be expanded, and interpreted in his favor in a more liberal sense, and he will live with the license of a higher order of beings.
That is what I think freedom really is…
If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them.
~ Henry David Thoreau (Walden)
Photo Credit of Castle Neuschwanstein: Unknown
There was a farmer who grew superior quality, award-winning corn in his farm. Each year, he entered his corn in the state fair where it won honors and prizes.
One year a newspaper reporter interviewed him and learned something interesting about how he grew his corn. The reporter discovered that the farmer shared his seed corn with his neighbors.
“How can you afford to share your best seed corn with your neighbors when they are entering corn in the competition with yours each year?” The reporter asked. “Why brother?”
The farmer replied, “Didn’t you know? The wind picks up pollen grains from the ripening corn and swirls it from field to field. If my neighbors grow inferior, sub-standard and poor quality corn, cross-pollination will steadily degrade the quality of my corn. If I have to grow good corn, I must help my neighbors to grow good corns too.”
The farmer gave a superb insight into the connectedness of life. His corn cannot improve unless his neighbors’ corn also improves. So it is in the other dimensions and areas of life!
Those who choose to be in harmony must help their neighbors and colleagues to be at peace. Those who choose to live well must help others live well too. The value of a life is measured by the lives it touches…
Success does not happen in isolation; it is most often a participatory and collective process. So share the good practices, ideas and new knowledge with your family, friends, team members and neighbors and all.
Photo Credit: Amy White and Al Petteway
While each of us has a personal understanding of success, it commonly means ‘a favorable or desired outcome’. When we aim and effectively accomplish or attain a desired end or object, we experience the glorious splendor of success.
In this moment, each of us is as successful as we believe we can be and the potential to experience greater success is always a possibility ready to be realized. In theory, all personal, professional or business success begins with an idea which then flows into a decision to ‘do it’, from which action steps are identified and taken to manifest the idea.
Although we may have personally experienced this straightforward approach to ‘having it’, an idea does not always successfully transform into reality. Why? I believe that most often than not the nuances of the creation or manifestation process is significantly influenced by the purity of the creator’s intent, will and faith in his or her self to actually ‘have’ the desired outcome.
As a transformational coach and consultant, I have had the privilege of assisting individuals and businesses to achieve heightened or expanded levels of success. Throughout the past thirty years, I have identified and facilitated seven fundamental principles that have empowered men and woman to successfully take their idea from being a vision to full realization. These seven simple, yet powerful principles can easily be applied to create success in all areas of a person’s life, work or business endeavor.
- Continuous Right Action
If you as an individual, group or a business are experiencing challenges with attaining or accomplishing a desired outcome, I invite you to ask yourself the following questions and to truthfully answer them:
- Do I have a crystal clear vision of what I am aiming to accomplish or attain?
- Do I believe that I can realize my vision?
- Am I 100% committed to realizing my vision?
- Am I willing and able to focus my attention, abilities and resources on the attainment of my vision?
- Am I connected to individuals and/or organizations that I can collaborate with, to leverage or pool talent and resources?
- Am I effectively communicating my vision?
- Have I identified the necessary action steps for realizing my vision? Am I continuously taking the steps? Am I adjusting and updating the steps as required?
If you answered ‘yes’ to each of the above inquiries, then you are well on your way to succeeding. If you answered ‘some what’ or ‘no’ to any of the above questions, then I encourage you to act now on the missing or partially engaged principle. These seven principles will guide you on your journey into new vistas of success. Enjoy your journey.
When most people think of learning they don’t think in terms of having to change themselves. They tend to think of learning as…acquiring ideas, tips, techniques, and so on. Seldom does it occur to them that the problems they are facing are inseparable from who they are or the way they think and interact with other people.
Think of a situation, problem or issue that you are presently tackling and then answer the following questions:
- Is my point of view exacerbating the problem that I am facing or is it facilitating resolution?
- What shift in perspective would lead my thoughts toward a solution?
- How do I see myself in this situation? Who am I being?
- Who do I need to ‘be’ to solve the problem…what innate qualities can I draw on?
- How is my behaviour fostering unfavorable results?
- What behaviour would encourage a positive outcome?
- Do I believe I can successfully resolve this issue?
- Do I reach out to family, friends, colleagues, or experts to assist me with this situation?
- What are my first three steps towards a resolution?
According to research we have over 60,000 thoughts per day… positive, negative, empowering, disempowering, creative, destructive, expansive, dismissive, conscious, unconscious …
It is our thoughts that create our reality, shape and texture our day-to-day experiences, and influence the direction and quality of our futures. Usually our high and low toned emotions are interconnected to what we are thinking. It is our thoughts that precede what we do and how we to do it or perhaps not do it. Being aware of our thoughts and the effect they have on our lives, our work and our world, is an essential principle for living successfully.
As human beings we are uniquely endowed with a very powerful ability…FREE-WILL… which is our inherent capacity to think and chose freely above and beyond external influence or force. Simply stated, we can voluntarily chose or decide what or how to think about ourselves, others, things and experiences. It is our innate free-will which upholds the universal claim that we are ultimately responsible for what we experience.
It is our freedom to chose our thoughts and perspective (and it is not people, situations or circumstances) that ultimately empowers us to move forward, to thrive and grow or to sabotage the quality of our lives, our effectiveness at work and our leadership.
The following is a short yet sure fire list of ‘How To Stay Stuck, Miserable and Disempowered’ and it is a portrayal of ‘not using’ or ‘misusing’ our free-will.
- Criticize. Be critical of yourself throughout the day, every day, from the moment you open your eyes in the morning to when you fall asleep. Focus on your body, face and overall appearance as well as what you are thinking or not thinking, what you are feeling or not feeling, what you have said or not said, what you have done or not done … Also criticize others in like fashion.
- Blame. For everything that is wrong or not working in your life, blame absolutely everyone starting with your parents or caregivers.
- Resent. Forgive no one especially your family. Hold on to your resentments and incessantly think of all the unpleasant experiences you have had and are having since childhood.
- Guilt. Feel guilty all the time about everything and everyone. Remember to feel guilty about situations and events that you have/had no control over…which is most things.
- Shame. By incessantly telling yourself and sharing with others “I should have… I could have… I would have…” you can anchor your sense of self in the mire of shame.
- Complain. Complain all the time to whoever will listen to you such as your family, friends, colleagues, strangers…
- Judge. Negatively judge everyone, everything and situations. Consistently share your negative judgments with family, friends and colleagues.
- Avoidance. Avoid your life today by tumbling back and forth on your timeline–reliving days gone by and daydreaming about your future.
- Self-pity. Feel sorry for yourself, after all you are the victim in your life and there is nothing that you can do about ‘it’.
- Lie. Intentionally exaggerate, minimize, omit, deny, fabricate… the truth about yourself to yourself and others.
- Gossip. Spread unsavory malicious stories about people you know and about people you don’t know.
- Control. Excessively ‘try’ to control everything and everybody with vigilance.
- Busy! Busy! Busy! Keep hyper-busy so that you can hide from your true self and hide from others.
- Perfectionism. Perfect your perfectionism to the point of self-paralysis.
- Worthlessness. Believe that you are not good enough, you are undeserving of all good things and experiences and that you have little to no value to contribute in your world and the world we all live in.
- Who would I be if I consciously exercised my free-will?
- What would I be doing differently?
- How would my life, work and leadership improve and expand?