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The Path to Living Your Success

Transformation really means a change in the way you see the world – and a shift in how you see yourself. It is not simply a change in your point of view, but rather a whole different perception of what is possible. It is the capacity to expand your worldview so that you can appreciate different perspectives, so that you can hold multiple perspectives simultaneously. You are not just moving around from one point of view to another, you are really expanding your awareness to encompass more possibilities.

Transformation implies a change in the sense of self. There’s an inner and outer dimension to it. It requires inner work and an appreciation for how that connects to being in the world, and the outer work of action and service.

Transformation involves multiple dimensions of a person: our self concept, the way in which we relate to other people, how we see the world, and what we feel is worth doing.  Transformation really touches every aspect of our lives and has a lot to do with changing values.

Transformation is multidimensional. It involves the heart, mind, and spirit, and affects behaviour and relationships in the world.

~ Frances Vaughan

Appreciative Self-Inquiry:

If you answer yes to one or more of the questions below then you may be ready to explore transformational coaching and start living your success:

  • My usual approach to personal or professional challenges is ineffective or unproductive.
  • Time and time again I am looping back to the same undesirable experience or result.
  • I’m in the midst of overwhelming personal and/or professional transition.
  • I’m in a toxic personal or professional relationships.
  • I feel stuck and aimless in my life or at work.
  • I’m experiencing mid-life angst, ennui, and dissatisfaction.
  • I desire to create a legacy, to make a difference in the world, to identify and fulfill my life purpose.
  • I am ready to explore new career directions.
  • My performance review is consistently average to poor.
  • My leadership is derailing.


What Should I Do With My Life?

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s  life.

Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking.

Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.

And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

~ Steve Jobs

Appreciative Self-Inquiry:

The following five questions will help you to discover your authentic work;

  1. What is the purpose of my life?
  2. What am I most passionate about?
  3. What are my inherent strengths?
  4. What do I stand for?
  5. What is my legacy?

15 Sure Fire Ways to Stay Stuck, Miserable and Disempowered

According to research we have over 60,000 thoughts per day… positive, negative, empowering, disempowering,  creative, destructive,  expansive, dismissive,  conscious, unconscious …

It is our thoughts that create our reality, shape and texture our day-to-day experiences, and influence the direction and quality of our futures.  Usually our high and low toned  emotions are interconnected to what we are thinking. It is our thoughts that precede what we do and how we to do it or perhaps not do it. Being aware of our thoughts and the effect they have on our lives, our work and our world, is an essential principle for living successfully.

As human beings we are uniquely endowed with a very powerful ability…FREE-WILL which is our inherent capacity to think and chose freely above and beyond external influence or force. Simply stated, we can voluntarily chose or decide what or how to think about ourselves, others, things and experiences. It is our innate free-will which upholds the universal claim that we are ultimately responsible for what we experience.

It is our freedom to chose our thoughts and perspective (and it is not people, situations or circumstances) that ultimately empowers us to move forward, to thrive and grow or to sabotage the quality of our lives, our effectiveness at work and our leadership.

The following is a short yet sure fire list of  ‘How To Stay Stuck, Miserable and Disempowered’ and it is a portrayal of ‘not using’ or ‘misusing’ our free-will.

  • Criticize. Be critical of yourself throughout the day, every day, from the moment you open your eyes in the morning to when you fall asleep. Focus on your body, face and overall appearance as well as what you are thinking or not thinking, what you are feeling or not feeling, what you have said or not said, what you have done or not done … Also criticize others in like fashion.
  • Blame. For everything that is wrong or not working in your life, blame absolutely everyone starting with your parents or caregivers.
  • Resent. Forgive no one especially your family. Hold on to your resentments and incessantly think of all the unpleasant experiences you have had and are having since childhood.
  • Guilt. Feel guilty all the time about everything and everyone. Remember to feel guilty about situations and events that you have/had no control over…which is most things.
  • Shame. By incessantly telling yourself and sharing with others “I should have… I could have… I would have…” you can anchor your sense of self in the mire of shame.
  • Complain. Complain all the time to whoever will listen to you such as your family, friends, colleagues, strangers…
  • Judge. Negatively judge everyone, everything and situations. Consistently share your negative judgments with family, friends and colleagues.
  • Avoidance. Avoid your life today by tumbling back and forth on your timeline–reliving days gone by and daydreaming about your future.
  • Self-pity. Feel sorry for yourself, after all you are the victim in your life and there is nothing that you can do about ‘it’.
  • Lie. Intentionally exaggerate, minimize, omit, deny, fabricate… the truth about yourself to yourself and others.
  • Gossip. Spread unsavory malicious stories about people you know and about people you don’t know.
  • Control. Excessively ‘try’ to control everything and everybody with vigilance.
  • Busy! Busy! Busy! Keep hyper-busy so that you can hide from your true self and hide from others.
  • Perfectionism. Perfect your perfectionism to the point of self-paralysis.
  • Worthlessness. Believe that you are not good enough, you are undeserving of all good things and experiences  and that you have little to no value to contribute in your world and the world we all live in.

Appreciative Self-Inquiry:

  1. Who would I be if I consciously exercised my free-will?
  2. What would I be doing differently?
  3. How would my life, work and leadership improve and expand?

Celebrating International Woman’s Day

Phenomenal Woman

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenal Woman,
That’s me.

~Maya Angelou

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